The violence of silence
There is a certain kind of silence that breeds violence.
is a silence that erases the truth of another.
is a silence that passes through the eye, which is inherited from parents to children, grandchildren and their children and their parents.
is a silence that ensures the passage of trauma between generations.
deep
violence scenes, trauma scenes are unconsciously transmitted by the survivors. Especially the scenes that have never found words. Violent scenes secret. Those who think themselves more private. These are actually the least hidden. There are moments of pain and is entered in the minds of children, and which are enrolled in a disturbing, because it is a pain that neither the child nor the parents, can heal with words, but why not cease to exist.
The trauma experienced directly by the parent becomes a traumatic reality, sensible, but incomprehensible to the next generation. And just taking care of children, often tragic aspects of children from parents. Because only one adult was exposed to tragedies of childhood is able to revive, "without knowing it, hundreds of times scenes of real violence.
A father or mother that are crossed by duels in suspense, filled with feelings of emptiness and death "can mean any how to protect their children of their own anxieties?
The role of parents is, in principle, to alleviate those fears, to make sense.
But if neither the father nor the mother can receive, and transform the anguish sudan, the silent anguish, anxiety busting ... the child, because of his own anxiety is stripped of meaning and becomes trapped inside the child with a "nameless terror."
More severe symptoms displayed in children, are actually an echo of what their parents said no. Even the pain of their grandparents. But the pain in silence.
As a grandparent, a parent or a child cry and scream, continues to hope that listen and to rediscover what has been lost. But when that hope fades, the grandmother, mother and child come into an inner world of desolation.
On the contrary, the words, "the words of truth," almost like a blanket of protection, such as a teddy bear, represents continuity. Million saved from breaking. The words take us back to the world and give us security, like a melody or a smell, a vital support. The words become a primary symbol of love, and if they manage to keep inside, help care for and preserve the inner world. As the treasure in order to preserve the aspects of life of parents alive. Not even walk desolate aspects between alive.
Surviving a traumatic event requires that a person found inside a space that can be filled with words that protect the vacuum from the violence of what is not spoken. But we do is listen. Sabina
Alazraki
Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy
s_alazraki@hotmail.com
There is a certain kind of silence that breeds violence.
is a silence that erases the truth of another.
is a silence that passes through the eye, which is inherited from parents to children, grandchildren and their children and their parents.
is a silence that ensures the passage of trauma between generations.
deep
violence scenes, trauma scenes are unconsciously transmitted by the survivors. Especially the scenes that have never found words. Violent scenes secret. Those who think themselves more private. These are actually the least hidden. There are moments of pain and is entered in the minds of children, and which are enrolled in a disturbing, because it is a pain that neither the child nor the parents, can heal with words, but why not cease to exist.
The trauma experienced directly by the parent becomes a traumatic reality, sensible, but incomprehensible to the next generation. And just taking care of children, often tragic aspects of children from parents. Because only one adult was exposed to tragedies of childhood is able to revive, "without knowing it, hundreds of times scenes of real violence.
A father or mother that are crossed by duels in suspense, filled with feelings of emptiness and death "can mean any how to protect their children of their own anxieties?
The role of parents is, in principle, to alleviate those fears, to make sense.
But if neither the father nor the mother can receive, and transform the anguish sudan, the silent anguish, anxiety busting ... the child, because of his own anxiety is stripped of meaning and becomes trapped inside the child with a "nameless terror."
More severe symptoms displayed in children, are actually an echo of what their parents said no. Even the pain of their grandparents. But the pain in silence.
As a grandparent, a parent or a child cry and scream, continues to hope that listen and to rediscover what has been lost. But when that hope fades, the grandmother, mother and child come into an inner world of desolation.
On the contrary, the words, "the words of truth," almost like a blanket of protection, such as a teddy bear, represents continuity. Million saved from breaking. The words take us back to the world and give us security, like a melody or a smell, a vital support. The words become a primary symbol of love, and if they manage to keep inside, help care for and preserve the inner world. As the treasure in order to preserve the aspects of life of parents alive. Not even walk desolate aspects between alive.
Surviving a traumatic event requires that a person found inside a space that can be filled with words that protect the vacuum from the violence of what is not spoken. But we do is listen. Sabina
Alazraki
Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy
s_alazraki@hotmail.com
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