The secret, privacy, anorexia
There is an experience of intimacy - or closed for privacy, "in everything that we found. There is also an experience of intimacy found in the experiences of others, to those around them, who do not speak of it.
If we were more attention, we could read more about each other.
A lot of our behavior, they are actually charged conduct privacy, what they mean for us in secret.
And we forget that we are not alone in our secret life.
When it comes to anorexia, talk about a particular form of experience intimacy. Is a particular way that we can come, read, and which exceeds by far the discussion on the amount of food or food control, "the self and others. With these external events: the thin, deaf to danger, the hallucination of a bloated body, agigantado, la compulsión con el ejercicio, con todo eso, se nos pide una escucha acerca de algo que se pone en lo externo, pero que habla, insisto, de una manera particular de vivir la propia intimidad.
Hay que entender, para empezar, que antes de ser un problema, la anorexia es una solución. O por lo menos el esfuerzo por encontrar una solución. Una solución para recuperar en algo una sensación de control sobre la propia vida. O para recuperar el rastro de lo más íntimo de una intimidad que se vive como perdida, o más que eso, como robada.
Como dice el dicho: “Para el baile, hacen falta dos”, de la misma manera, para la anorexia, también se necesitan dos.
Because when it comes to dancing, both partners are in the service movement and like the two to dance. It goes and comes, and the two meet to pass something that both transcends and includes: the music.
anorexia
When we talk about no music, no meeting, no movement, no taste, if you want. And if it had, it becomes a pleasure of the absent, the void, so no. As you think, in secrecy, is what is not. Just that.
But we had not said that here too there are two?
Yes, but here is a way to be two, where one side feels literally "swallowed" on the other. Where there is a war in which one of us is ready to go.
In the inner experience of an anorexic imagine that we will always find the image of a character, an inside presence who wants to dominate and control their impulses and thoughts. Determine from the outside who he is.
Anorexia is the maximum resistance against the secret image. And the resistance is carried to its logical conclusion: to the body, battlefield today.
What resists, then? Resists
identity theft. For your privacy and individuality of their desires. It resists being stolen from a minimal sense of control over their own. And nothing more appropriate than body. And in that field is won or lost life. Risking physical death, to live physically. Conquest
your body, and conquer a territory for themselves. Well
feel they have no other.
anorexic rejection is an ultimate solution to defend a sense of self, "I am", integrity, and at the same time to ensure through the control of hunger will a place where someone survives, representing the presence of someone (hunger) that can be controlled at will, changing place for a moment. Today is no longer a victim of the permanent control of someone else. Today it has become the owner of a valuable secret object that only she can control: hunger.
That no one will be able to steal.
Anorexia is a secret war that helps to resist a deep sense of helplessness. And above all, empty.
Sabina Alazraki
Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy
s_alazraki@hotmail.com
There is an experience of intimacy - or closed for privacy, "in everything that we found. There is also an experience of intimacy found in the experiences of others, to those around them, who do not speak of it.
If we were more attention, we could read more about each other.
A lot of our behavior, they are actually charged conduct privacy, what they mean for us in secret.
And we forget that we are not alone in our secret life.
When it comes to anorexia, talk about a particular form of experience intimacy. Is a particular way that we can come, read, and which exceeds by far the discussion on the amount of food or food control, "the self and others. With these external events: the thin, deaf to danger, the hallucination of a bloated body, agigantado, la compulsión con el ejercicio, con todo eso, se nos pide una escucha acerca de algo que se pone en lo externo, pero que habla, insisto, de una manera particular de vivir la propia intimidad.
Hay que entender, para empezar, que antes de ser un problema, la anorexia es una solución. O por lo menos el esfuerzo por encontrar una solución. Una solución para recuperar en algo una sensación de control sobre la propia vida. O para recuperar el rastro de lo más íntimo de una intimidad que se vive como perdida, o más que eso, como robada.
Como dice el dicho: “Para el baile, hacen falta dos”, de la misma manera, para la anorexia, también se necesitan dos.
Because when it comes to dancing, both partners are in the service movement and like the two to dance. It goes and comes, and the two meet to pass something that both transcends and includes: the music.
anorexia
When we talk about no music, no meeting, no movement, no taste, if you want. And if it had, it becomes a pleasure of the absent, the void, so no. As you think, in secrecy, is what is not. Just that.
But we had not said that here too there are two?
Yes, but here is a way to be two, where one side feels literally "swallowed" on the other. Where there is a war in which one of us is ready to go.
In the inner experience of an anorexic imagine that we will always find the image of a character, an inside presence who wants to dominate and control their impulses and thoughts. Determine from the outside who he is.
Anorexia is the maximum resistance against the secret image. And the resistance is carried to its logical conclusion: to the body, battlefield today.
What resists, then? Resists
identity theft. For your privacy and individuality of their desires. It resists being stolen from a minimal sense of control over their own. And nothing more appropriate than body. And in that field is won or lost life. Risking physical death, to live physically. Conquest
your body, and conquer a territory for themselves. Well
feel they have no other.
anorexic rejection is an ultimate solution to defend a sense of self, "I am", integrity, and at the same time to ensure through the control of hunger will a place where someone survives, representing the presence of someone (hunger) that can be controlled at will, changing place for a moment. Today is no longer a victim of the permanent control of someone else. Today it has become the owner of a valuable secret object that only she can control: hunger.
That no one will be able to steal.
Anorexia is a secret war that helps to resist a deep sense of helplessness. And above all, empty.
Sabina Alazraki
Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy
s_alazraki@hotmail.com
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